TEDx San Diego Takeaway: Mirror Moment

by Jessie Gardner October 25, 2016

Take a snow globe.
Shake it up.
You are the snowman.
Now imagine, every speckle of snowfall swirling around you is a piece of inspiration.

I'm fresh off the high of TEDx San Diego and this is how I feel. I'm amazed at the snow storm of world-changing ideas and people making the unthinkable reality.

The theme of the event was The Age of Magic: The many aspects of life that fill us with a sense of awe and wonder. There is no place I’d rather be than listening and absorbing the caliber of thought and courageous action these individuals are taking to impact the world.  

Out of all the talks, one concept stuck on me like a tongue to an icy pole. It’s called a mirror moment:

Mirror Moment (as defined by Angela Ackerman): a moment in a novel or screenplay when the character is forced to look within and reflect on who he/she is and who he/she must become in order to achieve his/her goal. If he/she decides to continue on as he always has, he/she will surely fail.

The hero realizes he/she must either a) become stronger to overcome the odds or b) transform, shedding his biggest flaws and become more open-minded to new ideas and beliefs.

One way or the other, the character must better him/herself in some way to step onto the path which will lead to success.

You can probably remember climactic moments in movies and novels when the main character must face themselves and make a decision that could shape their lives (famous mirror moments in film here.) There is a powerful application of this same concept in our daily lives. 

We all look in the mirror at least once a day, but we stay at the surface; hair, makeup, style, wrinkles, winks and silly faces, etc. When was the last time you were face to face with yourself, looked into your own eyes and said "hello" to the soul staring back at you? When was the last time you took a moment to connect with where you are in your life? 

So many people never look themselves in the eye and go through life living a script someone else wrote for them. 

It is in the momentum of living that we forget to ask ourselves when was it that we lost touch with our favorite passions, chose trade-offs for a paycheck and became disconnected with the part of us that used to be truly happy. The only person who can answer these questions is you. And the sooner you ask, the better.   

So, create your own mirror moment.  
Positively disrupt your routine.
Stand toe to toe, eye to eye, and be honest.
What do you want to do with this lifetime? 
What commitments are waiting for your "yes"? 

What do you need to ask yourself today?

Stand toe to toe in front of your mirror and look beyond the surface. Look at yourself. I mean really look at yourself. How far you’ve come. How much you’ve survived. How deeply you’ve loved. The victories you’ve had. The sorrows you’ve experienced. The lessons learned. 

Now, ask yourself if you are happy where you are standing in the timeline of your life. Are you grounded and happy in the places, relationships, work and environment you call home? Is it time for you to make a decision to transform and overcome the odds, choose the uncharted path or take a step in the direction of what your heart is calling you to do and to be?

I tried this today. Not only is it uncomfortable, it is hard, emotional, and thrilling all at the same time - like a good movie. Except this isn't a movie. It's your life and you are the main character.

Here's proof! Double selfie. What you can't see are the pages of notes in my journal and the clarity that came from such an intensely present moment with my soul. 

Honor the evolution of you. Make a date with your mirror. 

Much love,

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P.S.S.S. Fabulous new products, a workshop and videos are on the horizon.


Jessie Gardner
Jessie Gardner